tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1419960872642228771.post3210636750187453702..comments2023-11-03T01:47:06.890-07:00Comments on The Clan Macnab: Where is the Love?sherryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12815096701813162258noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1419960872642228771.post-75179593385751812922009-09-02T19:30:16.378-07:002009-09-02T19:30:16.378-07:00I hate private blogs. I never see them and then I ...I hate private blogs. I never see them and then I feel bad that I never comment. Oh, well. <br /><br />As for your friend, I would be uncomfortable if you called me on it. If it is just by chance, she will think you are over reacting. If it was on purpose, she will resent you. <br /><br />I always plan a dinner party or barbecue if I want to spend some time with a friend. Nothing big, just a little casual social thing. Just let her know that you miss them and thought it would be fun to catch up. If she says no, that is fine. You have the things that really matter anyway!DANI KYNASTONhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01006700321876752029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1419960872642228771.post-1155408028757345262009-08-29T09:16:40.786-07:002009-08-29T09:16:40.786-07:00I'm with ya.... even though my blog is ~privy~...I'm with ya.... even though my blog is ~privy~, it still stinks!Mariahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13678965404317131576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1419960872642228771.post-34040373715719886352009-08-27T17:49:50.713-07:002009-08-27T17:49:50.713-07:00i hate that. the loss of the friend for an unexpla...i hate that. the loss of the friend for an unexplained reason i mean. <br />the blog thing, could be an oversight. <br />or maybe she only had room for 100 people and you didn't make the cut not because she doesn't like you but because she has 100 people that she really wants to be able to see the wonder of her private blog. could that be it? <br /><br />or chalk it up to live and learn and move on.<br /><br /> it's hard when you feel a bond,the kids miss their friend, and someone drops out of the friendship with no explanation why. it's offensive. and sad. and it's happened to me too. <br /><br />maybe she's secretly got something going on with her. maybe she has her own issues that she doesn't advertise. and she's dealing with that by herself. <br /><br />you can't do anything to change it. and knowing might be more offensive than pursuing it. <br /><br />i love this post. i've been the one dumped and the dumpee. and well it's better to do the dumping. since you hold the power. but being the dumpee the only choice you have is to move on and take it as she sucks. and you rock and it's all her bitchy issue.?<br /> and flip her the bird while you are at it. right at her "this is a private blog and you aren't invited page." trust me . it feels way better.<br />;)Crazymamaof6https://www.blogger.com/profile/12010784861707678433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1419960872642228771.post-6520966806715311242009-08-27T14:35:31.176-07:002009-08-27T14:35:31.176-07:00I am non confrontattinal that way. I would probabl...I am non confrontattinal that way. I would probably never say anything to afraid of making a mountain out of what could be a mole hill, but always wondering. I am no real help huh?Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11456846201807604143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1419960872642228771.post-24311178978794347932009-08-27T12:37:30.559-07:002009-08-27T12:37:30.559-07:00I am private, of course. And for a long time, I w...I am private, of course. And for a long time, I was feeling bad that someone didn't ACCEPT my invitation, when in reality I had typed in the address wrong. <br /><br />Call, apologize, and get it out in the open. You DO feel bad that you haven't remained friends, and that is a place to approach her from. I know that if someone contacted me from a place of reconciliation, I would most definitely respond favorably.Patricehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07265064103658275715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1419960872642228771.post-39236184437082324982009-08-26T21:28:12.908-07:002009-08-26T21:28:12.908-07:00I should also add to my previous comment by saying...I should also add to my previous comment by saying that we are all so different at 35 than we were at 25 (which is weird, because at 25 I was much the same person I was at 15), and that if your former friend can't forgive the little things and move forward, it's her loss. You have never been anything but sweet and wonderful for as long as I have known you. We all have said and done stupid things that we regret, but just try to forgive yourself and realize what a wonderful person you are.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00650792665147702260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1419960872642228771.post-40767436493280848022009-08-26T10:59:01.779-07:002009-08-26T10:59:01.779-07:00Isn't it so great that we can grow up and matu...Isn't it so great that we can grow up and mature and not be the person that we were at 25? I am glad for this in my own life. Isn't it also great that family gets to be around for the good and the bad, the before and the after, and all the in between? <br /><br />I think it would be fine to have Wendell say casually, "Hey we miss seeing your cute family on your blog, how are you doing?" That wouldn't be any pressure and it would leave it up to them. Good luck.Dan and Janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17836009555399076712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1419960872642228771.post-64671921330979679092009-08-26T10:31:06.356-07:002009-08-26T10:31:06.356-07:00First of all, Sherry, you are a great friend! I ha...First of all, Sherry, you are a great friend! I have totally been in that situation before & I know exactly what you are going through. I still think about those people that I lost touch with for whatever reason & it makes me a little sad. I swear, I could've written this post. But, what you have to focus on is that it may have nothing to do with something that you did & something to do with them. Truth is, even if it was something that you did, you have given that person the opportunity to mend the relationship with you & she chose not to. I think that says a lot. To me that means that the other person has some issues if she can't forgive & move forward. It's truly her loss. I would certainly never say that you were a toxic person. We sometimes do silly things for many reasons but it doesn't change the fact that you learn from them. It makes you who you are today. As hard as it may be, you need to let it go & move on. I know that you will take it personally but TRY not to. Just remember that you have other friends in your life who value your friendship & chose to keep you part of their lives. Do your best to maintain those healthy relationships & continue to be a great friend. That's all anyone can do. Love you Sherry! <br />Oh, & sorry that I didn't invite you to my blog. hahahaha <br />(Maybe you should accept my invite. wink wink)Rhondahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14037118844097334376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1419960872642228771.post-83906021410091466772009-08-26T08:44:40.455-07:002009-08-26T08:44:40.455-07:00If it were me, I'd definitely not have Wendell...If it were me, I'd definitely not have Wendell ask. It'll put them on the spot and they probably won't tell the truth anyways, to not hurt your feelings. Try to move on, learn (as you obviously have), and be a better person for the lesson.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00650792665147702260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1419960872642228771.post-11314392613781826982009-08-26T07:55:51.095-07:002009-08-26T07:55:51.095-07:00This is a great post! I love when people can be r...This is a great post! I love when people can be real, honest and vulnerable about their lives and feelings. A rare thing now days. What if she really just doesn't want to be friends and you have Wendell call and that puts her on the spot again. Forced friendship? What if she just got busy and deleted the wrong emails? What if it was an oversight? In this age of digital mania, you just never know what people are thinking. My high school kids would constantly ask me what I thought about a text from a girl. We just couldn’t decipher some comments. Alas, I am one of those that rarely make comments. I love reading posts, but usually run out of time to comment. I would leave it alone. She probably knows that you have made an effort to be her friend. The ball’s in her court. Having said that, I am extremely reserved and if people don’t really try hard over and over, I lose touch with them. Sad, I know. I love you Sherry!Connolly Clanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06202569403021953373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1419960872642228771.post-88280527549594895402009-08-26T06:57:01.916-07:002009-08-26T06:57:01.916-07:00okay first off LOVE this post. I have been on bot...okay first off LOVE this post. I have been on both sides of this, really I can admit that sometimes I have been a sucky friend. But I am one that hates confrentation in any way so most likely I would leave it be and chalk it up to oversight. Sorry I am not much help! And yeah all these private blogs are killing me!Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01361951481843228252noreply@blogger.com